So I'm clearly with them, as I'm also a TDI fan, but without knowing exactly what kind of specimens the OP is considering, and what his DIY wrenching and fixing abilities are (or if he has a good trusted mechanic\shop that knows either one of the systems), it's hard to attempt to steer him correctly.
TDI will be more costly to both operate and maintain due to fuel price trends and complexity of technology involved.
If he only drives 6k a year as per his reply, all this is negligible.
However, I suspect that what he said above might be his mileage per month instead, which would translate to 72k a year. If that's the case, that is A LOT of driving, so he will not only burn up a lot more fuel, but will also incur a lot more wear\tear on components.
Given the fact that he wants to keep it "until it breaks" or 5-10 years, I guarantee that he will have emission component failures with either a gasser or TDI. He will also wear out HPFPs and injectors if he intends to keep it for an additional 360k-720k with either system. Assuming proper maintenance, the TDI will cost more when costly components such as DPF system\DEF system\Turbo\Injectors\HPFP need replacement. In comparison, the gasser will have less complicated and expensive components that will break and need replacement, while of course rewarding him with a less enjoyable towing performance experience.
I'm also assuming that whatever he is finding on the market will already have at least 100k on the clock.
But who knows.... without details and clarity, it's all speculation.