I've had to replace the throttle body n one other part, they got all gunked up dealer says I should do a carbon clean I have about 60,000 miles on it. Does anyone agree with this?
Carbon cleaning is needed whenever you think it's warranted. You actually have to look at the intake to assess how much gunk has collected there, and decide based on that whether a cleaning is needed. The amount of stuff that collects there depends on a lot of factors, like driving habits, fuel quality and climate or average trip duration. Because of that there are no two cars that need cleaning at the same interval. Some will clog up horribly already after 30,000 miles, while others will not need a thorough cleaning for twice or three times that many miles.
You think it works good just to add an additive detergent diesel cetane booster? Any thoughts?
Additives can help by lowering the amount of soot generated, and EGR/intake cleaners sprayed right into the intake/boost hose can remove some of the accumulated gunk. Taking a car every once in a while on a longer, very intense high-speed highway trip also helps, as does doing short "italian tune" runs regularly at the end of your trips, provided the engine has already warmed up at that point. However, in the end a cleaning of the throttle body / EGR valve / intake will be still inevitable, and all the stuff previously mentioned only helps extend the period at which this will be necessary.
Btw the exhaust manifold and the turbo is also affected by carbon build-up and will also need some cleaning regularly. The bad news is, that the state of these is obviously harder to assess, because you can't take a look at them as easily, as can you at your intake and its connected parts. The good news is, that these (ie. the turbo and the exhaust manifold) usually have lower amount of deposits, because of the generally higher pressure/speed of gases flowing through them, and also because there will be no or barely any oil vapors getting into them, which otherwise increases the speed of the buildup immensely at the intake.