I finally just got my new clockspring installed and heating hooked up today. If you don't want to source eBay connectors, you can get them from VW. They were in stock here locally. The part numbers needed for connectors are 000979225E for the plug that connects to the clockspring. This is a piece of wire with the same connector on each end, so you only need one. The plastic plug has a little clip you hold back, and then it sides apart horizontally, and the connectors then can pop in from the back. For the fuse box, the part number is 000979227E. This comes with two ends also, so you will have a spare for later. This also pops in from the back of the fuse box, but theres a long purple retaining bar that needs to slide about 2mm before it will go in, then it is secured once you move the bar back. Coding 000C35 worked for my steering wheel with heat and tiptronic. VCDS wanted to do 000435 with long coding helper, but heat didn't work. The change as mentioned here in HVAC brings the button to the screen. Thanks for all the help, and may everyone have warm hands this winter!
Also, I got my steering wheel off German eBay and had a friend bring it back from Germany. Same for the clockspring.