(long post, from a frustrated, yet somewhat happy Touareg owner)
The VW dealer I bought it from yesterday..., told me they can take the car back, for a replacement car of any kind, cheaper or more expensive. That's quite a nice gesture as they understand my issue, because I was pretty clear before buying it that I wanted a smooth ride. Now, the rest ride I did, was obviously not thorough enough and not on bad roads. I've learnt my lesson.
Switching to 17-18" wheels probably will help a lot. The VW dealer sadly didn't have any wheels I could try out, because I'm not sure I want to spend the money and then possible change car completely anyways you know.
Now, I've ridden it a bit more and I can manage, but it's not the car I wanted. And I think that will eat me from the inside.
The deal I have is that I can within 10 days switch the car out to any other. The bad thing, it's only within their dealership (that specific spot). They currently have 2 touerags coming in, but they're they're quite a bit more money. My main cause for changing cars was to reduce the monthly payment.
So you guys have the sport suspension (non air)? What tire sizes and how do you feel it performs over rugged asphalt?
The main issue really is the side to side jerking. Our "old" (08) skoda octavia also jerks and makes lots more noise, but it jerks in a forward motion rather than left to right as the touareg does. You know what I mean? Two quite different ways of "shaking" and moving around. Sadly, the side to side is very annoying for me.
Is this not happening on the touareg with air or standard??
Apart from this, the car is great! Two kids 2 and 3, wifey, we ride great. On even roads. After that, mainly I am the one complaining, but I know the wife kinda holds it in a bit to make me happy

cute, but she's a liar, haha.
VW checked on replacing the sport suspension and they said it was 35.000 sek. Now that's around 6000 US dollars or so. NOT worth it...! But I still want a smoother ride. Oh what to do...
Just as the seller agrees with, I should be 100% happy. And I am not. =/
Btw, found a 4G modem installed in the rear compartment. That was cool, apparently a campaign feature VW did some time ago. it's installed professionally. I was wondering why I got a WiFi network everywhere I drove. haha...

Just got to get my own sim card for it.
A pic of the car! 17's or 18' will be kinda small... But if it improves the ride over bumpy roads (with many small uneven patches of asphalt), then I'll settle with that solution.
The size is 265/50-19. Bridgestone Dueler H/P sport.
How do I find out if these have hard walls or will cause a stiff ride?